How To Win A Woman Over In 5 Dates

I’m going to assume that you have the first date coming up, and you want to make a good impression with her. In fact, you probably want to win her over with your date idea and make her fall madly and deeply in love with you – or something like that. I want to take it beyond the first date, because you need to build a connection if you want to win a woman over, and that may take longer than one date. So, let’s talk about how to impress a woman on the first 5 dates.

Date 1: Keep It Casual With Coffee

First Date At A Coffee Shop

The first date is about getting to know each other. Coffee is the perfect way to sit down, talk, and get to know each other better.

If you do something else that demands too much of your attention, you may miss out on the subtle clues that tell you whether or not she is a good match for you.

Coffee is also cheap. That means if your first date doesn’t go that well, you will at least feel good knowing that you didn’t spend an arm and a leg to impress a woman that is not impressed with you (or that you are not impressed with.) Don’t worry, you won’t look cheap. No woman should expect to be flown to Paris on the first date. She should expect a good time getting to know you and finding out if you are compatible.

You may want to should tell your date (before the first date) that you thought sitting down over coffee would be a nice way to get to know each other. That way she won’t dress up too much or avoid eating all day assuming she is going out for a nice supper.

Date 2: Do Something That Makes You And Her Laugh

Woman laughing

You got the second date, so you have her interest. Now is the time to make her feel really good around you.

By making her laugh, you increase your chances of success with her drastically. The ability to make a woman laugh (or laugh with her) is one thing that all women are looking for in a man. Every woman is looking for a man who can make her feel good and brighten up her day.

Here’s the caveat: Unless you are a funny guy (and you have been told so, not just think so), consistent jokes that are meant to try to make her laugh can come across as trying too hard. That can be a turn off for women.

So, take her to a comedy show where someone else will make her laugh and you get to benefit from it. Or, take her to a funny movie that has you both laughing. Just make sure laughter is a big part of the second date so that you can easily get to the third date.

Date 3: Do A New Activity Together To Bond A Little

Woman in self defense class

Now that you have established that you like being around each other, take the third date up a notch and try to bond a little. The best way to do this is by experiencing a new activity together.

When you learn something new or experience an activity for the first time together, you automatically share something. For instance, if you go to a cooking class to learn how to bake bread, then you will share not only the experience, but the knowledge you gained during the class about the process that goes into baking bread. You may even want to take a self defense class that will empower her and create a bond between you at the same time.

In short, an activity where learning is involved will give you your first connection, and that will bring you closer together and help you move towards being something more than just two people going out on dates.

Date 4: Do Something That Gets Your Heart Pumping

Woman and man on date at horror movie

Watching a horror movie has always been a classic date night, but do you know why? It is not just because it causes her to move closer towards you (although that is a good reason!)

Activities that scare you get dopamine, a feel-good chemical, pulsing through your body. This is the same chemical that pulses through your body when you feel infatuated with someone. So, scary activities can have the potential to cause a woman to feel more infatuated with you, which is exactly what you want now that you have established you liked each other and built a small bond between the two of you.

  • You want things to keep progressing forward.
  • You want her to feel somewhat passionate towards you.
  • You want her to think about you after the date.
  • You want her to look forward to seeing you again.

You don’t have to watch a scary movie. You can do something that promotes a little bit of fear in you both. For example, white water rafting or even horseback riding. As long as it gets your heart pumping a little, dopamine will be a by-product of the activity.

Date 5: Make The Fifth Date Romantic

Wine. Red Wine and Cheese. Romantic Lunch Outdoor. Pouring Wine romantic date

You got to know her better, you made her laugh, you created a bond, and you introduced some passion. Now you need to take it up a notch and introduce romance. Romance will win a woman over in a romantic way. If you don’t do something romantic, then you could move towards the friend zone.

This is the time to take her out to a nice romantic dinner or make her a romantic dinner at your home. Let her know through your body language and words that you like her and you are looking forward to what will come with her.

This date is not about proposing or asking her to commit to you, it is about solidifying that you have something going and that you would like to keep it going.

Other romantic ideas are:

  • Go to the beach and watch the sunset with a bottle of wine.
  • Go to a nearby botanical garden and enjoy the sights, smells, and sounds of nature.
  • Go somewhere where there will be live music, as well as food and drinks. Music has a way of inspiring passionate feelings. In my opinion, everything gets more intense with music!
  • Visit a museum. There is just something romantic about history and everything that has happened to bring us here together.

Do something that resonates with you and creates intimacy in one way or another.

Continue Forward With Fun, Bonding, And Romance

The above 5 date tips should win a woman over. After your fifth date, the rest is up to you. You have established a good base in your relationship and whether or not you commit yet is up to you and her.

No matter what happens, make sure your future dates always have one of the above elements in them. Fun, bonding, and romance will ensure you keep her interest and keep moving forward.