Some guys seem to have the mentality that you need to find the perfect woman, settle down, get married, or have kids all in your 20’s. Maybe that was the thing to do fifty years ago, but now it is perfectly acceptable to be single and enjoy your single life for as long as you want.
We have a higher life expectancy, which gives you more time to explore being single.
We have more medical treatment and awareness to help us have healthy kids at a later age.
And (most of us) don’t have a ton of pressure by society to find someone quickly or be doomed for life.
Yet, some people still live with the mentality that being single in your 30’s is for losers who are failing at life. For instance, today I got the following comment on the article ‘Don’t Kill Yourself Because You Can’t Get A Girlfriend‘.
At 30, dating is hopelessly over. (Women over 30’s are losers, and I would rather be gone than date them).
Keep in mind that this guy is only 28 and has no idea what being 30 is actually like. Also, keep in mind that this guy seems to have a very bitter view of love, dating, and life in general.
Let me make it very clear – Women over 30 are not losers.
They may be less inclined to smile and giggle at stupid jokes.
They may not pretend that they are something that they are not just to impress you and win you over.
But they are definitely not losers – not the majority of them anyway. I mean, there are still some losers in their 30’s – let’s be totally honest.
The truth is that I’m almost out of my 30’s, and I consider my 30’s to be the best time of my life so far.
My teenage years were just painful – all the way around.
My 20’s were full of partying and adventure, but also full of pain, hurt, confusion, and heartache.
My 30’s, though, have been the best time of my life, and I think there are a few good reasons why dating in your 30’s is actually pretty awesome.
You Have More Maturity In Your Life
For most people, it takes a while to figure out exactly what you want to do and who you are. Being single allows you the freedom to explore, screw up, and keep exploring until you figure some of it out. This is just a part of life.
In fact, we now know that the rational part of our brains is not developed until 25 years old!
Mature people are more attractive as life partners to mature people. Nobody wants to date an airhead without a brain or a future (yes, I’m talking about guys as airheads too). Security is a big reason for getting into a relationship with someone.
A woman wants to know that she can count on you when times get tough, and if you have no idea where you are, where you are going, and how to get out of a sticky situation if you have to, then you are not going to be as attractive as a partner as someone who has plans in place as well as a backup plan if something goes wrong.
Also, being mature means you and women you like are less likely to beat around the bush when it comes to saying what you want. You get to the point. You tell it like it is. And you get what you want quicker. That’s pretty damn awesome – trust me.
There Are Less Users And More People Looking For Something Serious
I know that there are a lot of women out there that don’t know what they want in their 20’s and end up dating and breaking up more than once. (Again, refer to the rational brain development of 25-years-old.)
That’s why your 30’s is a much better time to seriously date. More women are seriously looking to settle down, and you get stuck with less losers and shifty women.
It used to be that women felt the pressure to settle down in their 20’s. But, a lot of women now treat their 30’s like their 20’s and feel as though they need to settle down and get moving on a family during this time.
I imagine soon that many women in their 40’s will feel the pressure to settle down, but spend their 20’s and 30’s living the single life to its fullest.
There Is Less Peer Pressure
You are freer to date whoever the hell you want to date in your 30’s.
In other words, unless your ego is over-inflated, the date you choose doesn’t have to fit into some mold your friends have made or society has made. They just have to be good, kind, loving, attractive (to you), and interesting.
A Good Reflection Of Dating In Your 30’s Versus Your 20’s
The truth is that dating in your 30’s can be fun. You know what you want, you are more to the point about what you want, and more people are looking for the same thing that you are.
So, dating is not hopelessly over in your 30’s – that’s only something a dramatic 20-year-old, who is full of pain, hurt, confusion, and heartache would say. When you are sitting at the tail end of your 30’s, you can clearly see how awesome they really are.