What do you want to achieve in a year, five years, ten years, or twenty years from now? Are you working towards something better in life or are you waiting for something better to come find you? How you answer these questions can tell someone a lot about you and your view of the world, as well as what kind of impact you are having on it.
For instance, if you have no goals, and you are not working towards something better, then you are probably complaining about something – and possibly even feel like a victim in your life. Life hasn’t given you what you want yet, so what else is there to do but complain about that fact?
Lately, I find that a lot of people who regularly participate in certain forums or comment sections (especially on YouTube) are complainers. They see the worst in everything and complain about annoyances, pet peeves, or problems as if their words are making some sort of positive impact to other people and the world. I’ll teach them what life is really all about! But, really, they are just making a negative impact on the world.
“Those who impact the world for the better are careful and judicious with their words, actions and behaviors.” – Forbes
The problem is that while they are complaining, not only are the impacting the world in a negative way, they are also not taking action on their own life, which actually WOULD make a positive impact in the world.
What Power Do You Have?
I hear a lot of people say that they can’t make an impact on the world, so why bother trying. That’s an excuse.
When you start taking control of your own life and live with purpose, you start doing things that have an impact.
It may only influence one person positively (like that perfect woman), or it may influence the world, but it will have an impact in some way.
What does this have to do with attracting women and getting into a relationship that is happy and healthy? A lot!
Men Of Action Are MUCH More Attractive
When I asked Marta from A Girl Who Travels what the most attractive quality about a man is, she said, “I suppose it all comes down to a personal preference, but for me, one of the most attractive qualities is being a “go-getter”, someone who’s not afraid of dreaming big and working hard to make it happen.”
Men who dream big and work hard don’t have time to complain. They use their time much more wisely than that. They are more focused on what they want in life, why they are capable of achieving it, and what their next move is going to be.
Also, men who go after goals have a lot more confidence. They have taken risks, pushed past fears, and expanded their comfort zone – and along the way their confidence has grown. That’s sexy.
Moreover, they tend to see things in a much more positive light. They feel good about the world, their life, and their accomplishments, and that promotes a more positive mindset, which helps them have a more positive impact on the world.
Complainers sit around and – well, complain. They make fun of people, talk negatively about people, and generally feel upset with how things are going. Their mindset is more negative.
Which mindset do you think is going to be more attractive to a woman?
- One promises fun and laughter in the future
- One promises a bunch of depressing stories about how life sucks, how this guy sucks, how that sucks, etc…
I promise you that women are not looking to add negativity to their life (unless they are a drama queen or a negative person themselves, which is not someone you should want anyway.)
So, to all you guys who sit around complaining about other people and life in general, you may just want to get up, set some goals, find some purpose, become a go-getter, and make a positive impact on the world. Not only will you feel better at the end of the day, but you will be more attractive to women!