25 Ways To Tell Someone You Love Them Without Saying It

25 Ways To Tell Someone You Love Them

You may not be in a romantic relationship, yet, but I’m sure there are people in your life who you love. Expressing your love is one of the best ways to attract more love to you. When you are in a loving state, you are sending off a high vibration that will resonate with people who are also in a loving state. Moreover, when you are in a loving state, you have more awareness (because you are not stuck in a negative mindset focused on a ton of things to worry about), which helps you become more capable of seeing potential romantic partners in your life. This article is about telling anyone is your life that you love them to help you improve your relationship with them and keep you in a positive state where the love of your life is waiting for you.

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The most obvious way to tell someone you love them is to just say, “I love you.” It’s clear and to the point and it works, especially in the beginning of a relationship with someone. But, the words ‘I love you’ can become stale after a while. They become something that has been heard so often that it barely has any meaning behind it anymore. And that’s not good.

Why Tell Someone You Love Them?

It’s important that the people you love know that you love them. There are many reasons why:

  • It keeps your connection with them strong.
  • It ensures they understand how valued they are to you.
  • It makes them feel good about themselves.
  • It helps them feel supported in life.
  • It keeps their confidence high.
  • It causes them to return your love and keep you feeling good about yourself (that’s the high vibration that I’m talking)
In other words, it is important to get creative and let someone know that you love them. Stumped? That’s OK! This article has a ton of different ideas that you can use to constantly change up your method of making it clear just how important they are to you.

What Is Love?

First, let’s get clear on what love is. There is a lot of debate around the definition of love, but at its core, it is that feeling you have when you are very fond of someone and want to make their lives better. It can also be a feeling you have for a complete stranger who you instantly grow fond of and want to make their life better. In short, it’s that warm, fuzzy feeling you have towards someone that makes you want to do something good for them, protect them, and be someone special to them.

25 Ways To Tell Someone You Love Them

Use all of the following or just a few that resonate with you. But, the more ways you tell someone you love them, the more loved they will feel.

1. Be honest

Dishonesty is a one-way ticket to make someone feel worse about themselves, not loved. When you are NOT honest, you are telling someone that you don’t respect them enough to tell them the truth. You are telling them that you would rather keep secrets from them than share your truth with them. That’s not love. That’s what you do with an enemy or stranger who you don’t want to expose your true self to. So, be honest with the people who you love and that will show them how much you care about them.

2. Love notes

Love notes are not just for romantic relationships (although, a good love letter is a very romantic gesture!) Little notes that remind your loved ones you care is all you need to do when it comes to love notes. For instance, when I lived with my parents, we would write little notes to let each other know where we were going and then include little things like ‘love you!’ or ‘thinking of you!” These were just little reminders that spoke of how much we loved and appreciated each other.

3. Hug them

Physical contact is a very intimate way to show love. We don’t get touchy with people we don’t care about, but when it comes to people we love, touching can help strengthen the bond we have with them and make us both feel good. My best friend and her dad have this down pat. When they see each other, they hug and scratch each other’s backs for what seems like hours. It sounds weird, but it is the sweetest gesture, and we all get tears in our eyes as we wait for them to finish saying ‘I love you’ in their own way.

4.  Be thoughtful

Do little things that show them you are thinking of them. Buy their favorite food, make their favorite supper, or suggest watching their favorite show. When you show that you are aware of their likes and needs, you will tell them that you care about them enough to pay attention to them.

5. Be kind

Think before you say something stupid or do something mean. My husband has never said a mean word to me, and even if I didn’t know that he loved me through all the other things he did, I would know it through that simple action. The fact is that you shouldn’t be mean to people you love. You shouldn’t treat them worse than you would treat other people you don’t even know on the street. You should always be kind and show them that they are extremely important in your life.

6. Be understanding

The best way to say ‘I love you’ is to listen to someone and comprehend what they are saying. Try to see where they are coming from, and try to understand it to the best of your ability. When you are trying to be aware of their feelings or point of view, you are showing them how much you actually care.

7. Do something unexpected

When it comes to the people we love, we get stuck in routines. That can be a good thing, but sometimes it helps to do something unexpected to shake up reality and remind them of how happy you are to have them in your life. Something unexpected requires thought, and when you put thought towards someone for no reason, that is a great way to show someone that you love them. Think big: a trip. Or, think smaller: doing their chores for them. It doesn’t matter as long as it is unexpected.

8. Help them out

Showing love can be as simple as helping someone. If you see someone struggling, then help them. What better way to tell someone you care than to help them when they are struggling or in need? And, this is an easy way to show love towards strangers or people you don’t know very well.

9. Contribute something to their life

Giving is a chance to show how much you love someone. Your mother gives to you as a gesture of love, and you can do the same for other people. Giving doesn’t have to be a financial thing. It can be an act of giving food, time, energy, or anything else that someone needs.

10. Listen

If you love someone, you will take the time to REALLY listen. When you take the time to hear, and validate what they said, you are showing that you care enough to really focus in on what they are trying to convey. My dad has always been great at this. When no one else really listens to what I’m saying, he has always listened carefully and understood the message I was trying to get through. This shows me that he cares enough to really pay attention and think things through from my point of view.

11. Share your knowledge

You’ve got information to give, so give it! By sharing your knowledge with someone you love, you are giving them the gift of new thoughts, ideas, and perceptions. You may have even inspire a moment where they gain clarity on a problem they have been having for a long time, which is an ultimate way to make them feel as if you really care about them.

12. Make them laugh

Did you know laughter releases some hormones that make you feel amazing? In fact, laughter can have the same effect as drugs without the unwanted side effects. Dopamine is the hormone responsible for that, and unlike drugs, the natural high doesn’t require more intense laughing (doses) to keep making you feel good. Therefore, give someone you love a dose of laughter. You will make them feel great about themselves, which is an awesome way to say ‘I love you!’

13. Laugh with them

If you have ever been drunk or (hopefully not) done drugs, then you know the high that comes from having a shared high. You naturally get along with people and view them with a higher level of regard. So, share their high of laughter and act like two drunk people who obviously care about each other.

14. Praise them

This is hard for some people. To give praise means that you have to compliment someone else and commend them for a job well done. For some people, that can feel like you are minimizing your worth as you put their worth on a pedestal, but that is only a perception. The truth is that when you praise someone, you tell them how much you respect them, and all they hear is ‘I love you’ and ‘I care about you’. If they are good people, feeling that good should never put them in a place to judge you and try to make you feel bad.

15. Put their needs first

Your needs should be a top priority, but when it comes to the people you love, sometimes you have to put their needs first. If you see an opportunity where their need surpasses yours, then take it and show them how much you really love them. They will definitely get the message.

16. Ask them what they need

Sometimes you won’t be able to see what they need but you will see them struggling. A kind gesture is to simply ask them. They may not want to share because they don’t want to burden you with their problems, but the fact is they may need help, and by asking you can find a way to give them the support they need.

17. Support their change

The people you love are going to change. They are going to grow and develop new beliefs, new interests, new habits, and new ways of living life. Supporting them no matter who they become (as long as they are being healthy) is the ultimate way to show unconditional love. Believe me, not everyone is going to stay by their side as they change. Only the people who truly care will.

18. Stand by them

If something bad is happening to them, stand by them and take action to help them if they need it. Your support is a great gift of love, and this can be for strangers too you know! In high school, I had a few bullies that would always pick on me. I don’t know why. I got along with most people, but for some reason two guys really didn’t like me. I remember one time they stopped me as I was entering a train station and started picking on me. I don’t remember what they said because I was scared, but I do remember them mumbling something and then turning away. It felt like a miracle because they usually were relentless. When I turned around, I saw some older people (probably in their twenties) with a chain in their hand. I realized that they had stood behind me as if they knew me, and my bullies got scared. Those guys never picked on me again, and I will forever appreciate the people who literally stood by me during my time of need.

19. Don’t laugh at them

I had a family member who used to laugh at his wife all the time. He made fun of her in a way that he thought was being lighthearted, but it actually made her feel as though he was attacking her and didn’t love her enough to treat her with respect. Please don’t make fun of other people you love. By NOT laughing when everyone else is, you are the one that stands out as someone who cares about their happiness and well-being.

20. Avoid judgment

As said, people are going to develop new ideas in their life, and if you judge them, then they will feel that you are not supportive of them. Instead of trying to make them feel ashamed, try to help them figure out how to make the most of what they want. That’s a great way to say ‘I love you’.

21. Be kind to the people they love

You don’t have to love everyone they love. You don’t even have to like them. But, you should be kind to them. It’s a great way to say ‘I love you’, especially when the people they love are a little bit out there.

22. Don’t restrict them from family or friends

The ultimate way to say ‘I don’t love you!’ is to control who they can and cannot see. If you really love someone, you will let them form their own relationships and maintain them. Relationships provide us with support and help us grow into who we want to be, and they are important to our mental well-being. Show someone you love that you realize their relationships are important by not challenging them or putting them down.

23. Get excited in their presence

When I think of how my dog shows my husband that he loves him, I think of the excitement he has when my husband comes home from work. If we could all be that excited about seeing the people we love, wouldn’t they feel special and loved? Your damn right they would! Get excited when someone you love comes over or shows up. They will feel the love radiating off you.

24. Smile

Smiling is a level down from laughter, but it can warm the heart of anyone who receives it. Instead of frowning at the people you love, make a point to smile. Let them know you are happy in their presence and that you appreciate them. When my mother smiles at me, it truly makes me feel like she loves me. When my best friend smiles at me, it also makes me feel like she loves me. And when a stranger smiles at me, it makes me think that I’m worthy enough for them to smile at. All of those feelings are great.

25. Say Things That Mean Something

I love the following Quora answer. It is a good example of how to tell someone you love them.

Read Gary Meegan's answer to What are some non-clichéd ways of saying 'I love you'? on Quora