Developing your emotional intelligence can help you be happier in life, relationships, career, and more. The good news is that if you lack emotional intelligence, you can learn and expand it with practice. In other words, you have the potential to be a master of emotional intelligence and rock your ability to attract women, have better dating experiences, and have happier relationships.
Emotional Intelligence: The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
Not sure if you are emotionally intelligent? Find out from this article.
7 Reasons You Should Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
No matter what you answered in the poll, I want to convince you that increasing your emotional intelligence will be good for attracting women, having better relationships with them, and being happier overall.
1. When You Are Aware Of Your Emotions – And Their Impact On Others – Women Will Like You More
Do you fly off the handle or get stuck in a pit of anger, negativity, or despair? If so, you are probably scaring women away big time!
This one guy I knew was so negative that women would literally leave the room when he would enter it. His lack of emotional intelligence made him the most depressing person to be around – and in case you didn’t know this…women don’t want to date a guy who is depressed all the time (or angry, or miserable, or focused on the worst). And, because his emotional intelligence was so low, he couldn’t understand why he was single.
Becoming aware of when you are gloomy, depressing, angry, or irritable will help you take notice of not only your emotions, but how other people react to them. So, you will notice women running away, and you will have an understanding of what you can do to fix that.
Most importantly, when you really become aware of how your emotions impact others, you will start to want to get more control over your emotions. It will just be something you actively work on. Especially if you really desire to have personal relationships with women and other people.
2. Women Like A Guy Who Understands Them
When you develop your emotional intelligence, you understand where other people are coming from. You can see why they are upset and even why they are happy, and you can interact with them in a way that benefits your relationship. In short, you can build a connection.
For instance, if you go on a date with a woman, and she is upset for a legit reason, you can save the date by being emotionally intelligent. You can comfort her, share concerns, and help her feel better. At the end of the date, she will feel good about you and your ability to understand her, and there will be a second date coming up.
Or, if you go on a date with a woman and see her become happy at the mention of puppies, you can use that information to win her over. You may talk about your love for puppies, take her to a place where puppies are everywhere, or just avoid talking about how much you hate puppies.
3. You Can Stop The Foot-In-Mouth Syndrome (Or At Least Tone It Down)
When you develop a higher level of emotional intelligence, you will be able to recognize when you are about to say something stupid thanks to your emotions. This is going to come in handy, especially while you are dating and just getting to know each other.
For instance, if you see her talking to a guy on your date, and your anger starts to build up, your ability to recognize your emotion and think before you speak is going to help you out a lot. You will be able to stop yourself from sharing your ‘concern’ and irrational thoughts.
If you don’t have the emotional intelligence to do that, you may say something that makes you look like a jealous and angry jerk, which will instantly make her question her attraction towards you.
4. You Will Find More ‘Acceptable’ Women To Date
When you accept emotional changes as a part of life, you will be more willing to date women that don’t fit into a mold that you have for what women should be like.
You will remove the ‘perfection’ rule (as in never gets upset or down) and look for someone who is also emotionally intelligent as well.
The good news is that women who are emotionally intelligent are going to offer you a much happier relationship in the short-term and long-term. Therefore, essentially, you will be finding the perfect woman for you and avoiding the mess that comes from dating a woman who is not aware of, or in control of, her emotions.
5. You Become More Self-Confident
You hear it everywhere! Confidence is one of the main keys to getting women. What you may not hear is that emotional intelligence is one of the main keys to gaining self-confidence.
Many people let their emotions define who they are. But your emotions don’t define you. They come and go depending on how your day is playing out.
When you have awareness over your emotions, you can acknowledge them as being a part of your life that, in part, helps you work through issues and overcome obstacles. You can stop labeling yourself as your emotions and beating yourself up for having the emotions.
When you stop beating yourself up and putting yourself down all the time, you start having more positive conversations with yourself, and your self-confidence increases naturally.
6. You Make Better Decisions
When you acknowledge your emotions and have control over them, they no longer run you. This means you make better decisions for yourself, your relationships, and your life.
So, instead of letting your fear dictate whether or not you go on another date with a woman who seems perfect in every way, you will be able to make a decision based off more practical information, such as whether or not you really want to see her again.
7. You Recognize What Truly Makes You Happy
When you develop a high level of emotional intelligence, it is hard for you to take for granted that perfect woman or anything else in your life. You can recognize what and who makes you feel good, and this ability helps you appreciate what you have while you have it.
You know that saying, “You don’t know what you have till it’s gone”? Well, you will know, and that will benefit your happiness on a huge scale!