5 Things To Remember When You Feel Like Giving Up On Women

You know what you want out of a relationship. You know what you want in a woman. You know who would make you happiest in life. But none of it has shown up yet.

Sometimes that date, relationship, or woman doesn’t come easy, but following are some things to remember when you feel like giving up.

1. You Get In And Fall Out – It’s A Part Of Life

Sometimes you think you have gotten close to where you want to be and then instantly get dumped out of your spot. It happens. Unexpected things occur.

You don’t have any control over those surprises. But there is one thing you do have control over – the ability to get back up and try again.

2. When You Don’t Have It, You Can Fake It

Sometimes you don’t have what you want yet, but you CAN fake it until you make it. While some people think that faking it until you make it is bad advice, other people say that it can actually help you to get the results you want. In fact, faking it can help force you to find the answers you are looking for and develop the traits you want to develop much faster.

So:

  • Pretend to be a ladies man.
  • Pretend to be the guy that easily attracts women he wants.
  • Pretend to be confident and in control.

(Just don’t get caught faking it too hard.)

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3. Other People Have Faced A ‘Wall’ And Succeeded

It may not feel like it, but no matter where you are, how you feel, and where you want to go, someone else has been there and done that. In short, other people have been where you are and succeeded.

Always remember that if they can do it, you can do it. They don’t have superhuman powers…they just figured out how to make everything work out for themselves. 

And if you don’t care that other people have been where you are, then remember this:

success keep trying

4. Pay Attention Or You Might Get Stuck

You may feel like closing your eyes and ignoring the world around you, but if you do that, then you may get stuck and find it even harder to keep trying and find success. 

Here’s the thing: The world keeps going on even if you decide to pretend that it doesn’t.  Stay present. Stay focused. And do what you need to do to avoid getting stuck in a really bad spot.

5. Success Comes To Those Who Try

If you really feel like giving up, remind yourself that if you do – success is not going to come. You simply cannot have success with anything, including women, if you give up and stop trying.

Trying may not be fun. It may not be rewarding (yet). But trying is your best chance at succeeding.

  • Deege

    Thanks for the informative blog.
    I always enjoy reading a woman’s perspective.

    I was listening up until “Trying may not be fun. It may not be rewarding (yet). But trying is your best chance at succeeding.”
    In the words of Yoda: “Do, or do not. There is no try.”
    But seriously…

    I am in my 50’s. Married for a while a long time ago, divorced, no kids. Dated a number of girls before and even more after. The word trainwreck pretty much describes the main attribute of most of the women. Maybe it is the women in the locations I’ve lived in, I don’t know…

    Regarding this blog entry, this is from a man’s perspective:

    Two of the main reasons why so many men give up are:
    1. Most women simply play too many games. And I don’t mean fun or romantic games.
    2. Their standards are above their own station. In other words, they are looking for a prince when they themselves are a pauper, but they still believe they deserve a prince. Blame Disney for this I guess?

    If a woman is interested, why go through all of the negative rituals, why not just be honest with the guy? Doing so doesn’t mean that the courting/dating phase of the relationship is over.

    One case in point is playing hard to get. Any woman I’ve seen do it, and those who have tried it with me, tend to simply be dismissive, often ignore you, and are sometimes downright rude during this period.
    What? She wants to see if and how much crap he will take from her now, so that she will know that he will be willing to take crap from her in a relationship? That is the behavior you would expect from a spoiled child, not from an adult. It is not even close to courting.
    If a man did the same things within a relationship, you can be guaranteed that she would end it immediately.

    Perhaps the smarter women need to start teaching the rest of the women the proper way to do things like this. The current high failure rate of relationships should be a strong indicator that what most people are “trying” simply is not working.

    As I mentioned at the start, I’m in my 50’s now. I don’t have time for games that literally waste my time.
    I am looking for a long-term relationship, not a string of one night stands and more strikes on the dating list. No women is getting any of this (sex with me) until we are in a committed relationship.

    Unfortunately at my age now, most women have a handful (or two) of children, many times from different men; they are never upfront about what diseases they have (and I’m sure most have a plethora).

    Most of the people I deal with on a daily basis are women, I enjoy being around women, I enjoy talking with women, I enjoy going out with women, I enjoy treating women well. I just don’t enjoy all of the games and messy stuff they seem to always bring when dating.

    FYI: I am a fit and well-off professional and owner of my own tech company with still a very bright future. And still single since the divorce. If it isn’t gold-diggers I encounter, then it’s women playing silly games.

    PS: I apologize if any of this comes off as anger, it’s not, it’s perhaps a bit terse due to frustration. 🙂

    • Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m amazed you have been coming across so many women with diseases – and that you believe they have a large amount of diseases. Interesting.

      • Deege

        My apologies if that line came off too strong or is interpreted that way too easily.
        The main point of it is that [I have found in my experience] most are not upfront within the first few dates about any sexual or viral health concerns.
        I don’t want to go past a few dates, get emotionally involved, and then find out that we have to go through medical hoops just to have sex.

        For me, even such viruses as herpes simplex counts. Full disclosure please.
        The last thing I want is a woman with a “cold sore” doing stuff down there, nor do I want to contract herpes from her orally.

        Perhaps I sound paranoid (germaphobe), but when you have sex with someone, you are also having sex with every partner they have had before you.