You know what you want out of a relationship. You know what you want in a woman. You know who would make you happiest in life. But none of it has shown up yet.
Sometimes that date, relationship, or woman doesn’t come easy, but following are some things to remember when you feel like giving up.
1. You Get In And Fall Out – It’s A Part Of Life
Sometimes you think you have gotten close to where you want to be and then instantly get dumped out of your spot. It happens. Unexpected things occur.
You don’t have any control over those surprises. But there is one thing you do have control over – the ability to get back up and try again.
2. When You Don’t Have It, You Can Fake It
Sometimes you don’t have what you want yet, but you CAN fake it until you make it. While some people think that faking it until you make it is bad advice, other people say that it can actually help you to get the results you want. In fact, faking it can help force you to find the answers you are looking for and develop the traits you want to develop much faster.
- Pretend to be a ladies man.
- Pretend to be the guy that easily attracts women he wants.
- Pretend to be confident and in control.
(Just don’t get caught faking it too hard.)
3. Other People Have Faced A ‘Wall’ And Succeeded
It may not feel like it, but no matter where you are, how you feel, and where you want to go, someone else has been there and done that. In short, other people have been where you are and succeeded.
Always remember that if they can do it, you can do it. They don’t have superhuman powers…they just figured out how to make everything work out for themselves.
And if you don’t care that other people have been where you are, then remember this:
4. Pay Attention Or You Might Get Stuck
You may feel like closing your eyes and ignoring the world around you, but if you do that, then you may get stuck and find it even harder to keep trying and find success.
Here’s the thing: The world keeps going on even if you decide to pretend that it doesn’t. Stay present. Stay focused. And do what you need to do to avoid getting stuck in a really bad spot.
5. Success Comes To Those Who Try
If you really feel like giving up, remind yourself that if you do – success is not going to come. You simply cannot have success with anything, including women, if you give up and stop trying.
Trying may not be fun. It may not be rewarding (yet). But trying is your best chance at succeeding.
— Jesse Torres (@jstorres) June 12, 2015