Help my girlfriend cheated on me and now I don’t know what to do. Do you love your girlfriend despite the fact that she cheated on you? Are you thinking about forgiving her? If you are a guy whose girlfriend has cheated on you, and you are unsure what to do, or where to go from here, then you have come to the right place.
As a female myself I have seen many of my male friends and also my female friends in this situation. In some cases they have stayed with their partner and in other cases they have left, I have seen all the outcomes. Let me be the first to say that I am really sorry that this happened to you. I wish that you were not reading an article entitled: my girlfriend cheated on me. However here you are and I am going to do my best to provide you with some helpful advice.
My girlfriend cheated on me what now?
If your girlfriend has cheated on you, I would like to give you my honest opinion. This is not about being a judgmental bitch, but rather me providing you with insight from years of experience. I have honestly seen many relationships in this situation and everything I am going to tell you really comes from the very best advice that I know how to give. I know that it may not be easy to hear but I promise you that I genuinely care and I would like to try and save you years of pain and future heartbreak.
If you cheated on your girlfriend first or you did so in order to get back at her, I would like you to know that “two wrongs do not make a right” and I think that you are both acting in a very immature manner. If you both are not considerate towards each other’s feelings then there is really not much point in being together. A healthy relationship is based on mutual respect, love, loyalty and trust.
What does this all mean for the future?
If you are thinking, “my girlfriend cheated on me and I deserve this” please think again. Unless you cheated on her or really abused her and treated her badly, I can assure you that you don’t deserve this. Don’t allow anybody to make you feel like you deserve to be cheated on, because I can promise you that there is no excuse for someone to cheat.
In terms of your future I honestly think that you are wasting your time with this girl. I completely understand that you may be in love with her, but any girl who can do this to you is not worth your time and energy. You would be better off alone or with someone else who can provide you with loyalty.
The saying goes: “the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior”. If she cheated once she can cheat again. No matter how many times she says she is sorry you are always going to have a problem trusting her again.
You are worth more
I firmly believe that you are worth more and deserve a relationship filled with love and honesty. Regardless of the reasons why she cheated or the circumstances, that is irrelevant. Any girl, who cheated on you, has now placed you in a very difficult situation. She has also made a complete and utter fool of you and this can seriously impact your self-worth. This is besides the fact that she may have made it harder for you to trust girls in the future. I would like you to know that this is not a reflection of who you are as a person; it is rather a reflection of who she is.
If you try and salvage this relationship, I can tell you that it will not work out very well in the long term. Do you really want to take the chance? What happens if she cheats on you again are you ready to deal with that? Will you ever be able to fully trust her? What happens if ever time she goes out with her friends, it makes you uncomfortable and paranoid? These are just some of the many things that you should be thinking about in terms of the future.
The hard way
The positive aspect about all of this is that in the long run, she has actually done you a favor. She has shown you early on in the relationship, who she really is. Instead of trying to change her and force this, rather learn the lesson now and try to move on. I promise you that although it may be difficult for you to move on, but for your own self-respect and self-dignity, please try to let her go. Never again should you have to be in the situation where you are reading an article called: my girlfriend cheated on me.