Are You Taking The Happiest Route To Love?

The Journey To Love

Are you looking for love? If you are, I want you to think about something. How do you picture your route to love?

Do you picture taking the quickest possible route – even if it is full of pain, worry, self-hatred, and other negative emotions? Even if it leaves you feeling unfilled?

Or, do you picture taking the happiest possible route to love? Do you want to admire the path and scenery, and enjoy every second getting there?

Answer the following poll honestly.

How Do You Picture Your Route To Love?

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The Happy Map Idea

The idea to move to love through a happy route came to me from the TED talk by Daniele Quercia on happy maps. You can watch this short talk in the following video. Essentially, he talks about creating destination maps that have a happier route to your final destination, which usually only result in a few minutes difference, but a much better experience.

The Pressure To Take A Certain Route In A Certain Amount Of Time

There is a lot of pressure to find the shortest distance to love. In fact, many people are willing to give you directions: find a woman who is similar to you and marry her. They will tell you that it is just supposed to be that way and then try to make you feel bad when you try to take another route.

Many people also want to tell you exactly how long it should take. My friend, whose religion and parents pressured him to get married young, thought that he was supposed to get married and have children by the age of 19. The fear that came from not doing that is what caused him to marry someone he didn’t really love and have three children that he couldn’t devote his full loving attention towards.

Not exactly the happiest route, and not exactly the happiest outcome after he reached his desired destination.

The Problem With The Shortest Distance To Love

Statistically, we know that the chances of finding the best match for us right away are not good. In fact, we know that it usually takes a few love interests to find the perfect mate for us.

Therefore, when we try to find the shortest distance to love, we are willing to accept people into our lives that aren’t really that good for us. If we were to just take our time on the walk to our final destination (love), we would see that these people are not that good for us and we would move on without wasted time or regret.

One of the things that Daniele says in his talk is that the programmed map assumes there are only a handful of directions available for your destination. But there are actually a lot of directions available to get to your destination.

That applies to the destination of true love. Just because your mom or friend found true love by taking a certain route, or they think you will find love by taking a certain route, it doesn’t mean that you must take that route.

Enjoy The Journey!

The thought I wanted you to consider from this article is that the key to happiness is to enjoy the journey.

The happy route is always available to help you take in the scenery, enjoy special places, and notice the beauty of it all while you are working your way towards the destination. Don’t let the journey pass you by, because once it is gone, it is gone. You can’t get that back!

When you enjoy the journey you get three important things:

  1. A richer life: The more you live in the moment and notice the good things around you, the more you are grateful for the things and people that are in your life.
  2. A happier life: When you are grateful for the things and people in your life, and you are not focused on what is lacking, you are happier.
  3. More clarity: When you are not focused solely on the destination, you are able to see the bigger picture, which helps you make better choices along the way.

It’s true, we live in a world that is made to get things done fast, and our mentality is always thinking about how we can get there (wherever there is) faster and more efficiently. But, if you notice, we seem to be unhappier than ever before. Coincidence?

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