Wanting a woman who fits your desires if fine. We all want someone to be by our side, support us, love us, have sex with, etc. But, there is a difference between wanting a woman to love and needing a woman to love.
When you want, you have the desire to find that perfect woman. You know a relationship would probably make you happy and be fulfilling, so you want that in your life.
But when you need, you require that you find that perfect woman because it is essential to your life in some way. You feel it will make you happy, stop you from feeling lonely, or fill up a missing piece of your life, and that can lead to desperation.
Like the need for food, shelter, and water, your need for a woman in your life can cause you to do stupid and dangerous things in order to get her – and because a woman is not something that is under your control – like food, shelter, or water, your desperation will likely do more harm than good for you.
How Desperation Attracts More Desperation
Being desperate is obvious and even if a woman is interested in you, she is not going to fall head over heels for a guy that is intense, in her face, too pushy, and – honestly, a little bit scary! In other words, you are going to scare off women if you are desperate and create the exact result that you DON’T want to happen, which will make you feel more lonely, unhappy, or unfulfilled, and cause you to become more desperate.
OR, you will find some mean bitch who uses your desperation against you. She will always keep you an arm’s length away, but lead you on and on and on…which will intensify your desperation.
11 Signs You Are Desperate For A Woman
Not sure if you are desperate or just keeping your eyes open for a woman who may be a good match? Following are 11 signs that you’ve become too desperate.
1. You Are Telling Everyone How Desperate You Are
When you are reaching out to strangers on social media, the bus, the coffee shop, or wherever, telling them how desperate you are to find a woman, you know that you have reached extreme desperation.
2. You Are Paying For A Woman’s Company
I promote adult dating sites for guys who are looking for sex and fun with a woman. I think it is a great way to get your sexual needs fulfilled without using women who are actually looking for something more. But, the truth is that if you are paying for snuggles, everyday type conversations, dates, or some attention, then you are feeling desperate for those things.
I’m just appalled at how desperate some folks would be for a woman. $50 for a convo??? FOH
— Fault (@FaultSoTrill) October 13, 2015
3. You Have No Standards When It Comes To Who You Would Date
If you are at the point that you will take any woman into your life, despite her ethics, health, mental state, or other important elements, then you are desperate for a woman! You should always have some standards set out if you want to find a woman who is not just going to be in your life, but make your life really, really happy.
4. You Sacrifice Important Things For A Woman
Whether it’s your family, friends, or your prized possessions, you are willing to sacrifice things that are important to you just so you can have a woman in your life – even with no guarantee that things are going to work out.
5. Your Buying Love Potions – And Using Them
When I was younger, I believed in love potions. But, even though I still believe in a lot of things that others don’t, like crystal energy and law of attraction, I’ve come to realize that you can’t slip someone a potion and expect them to fall madly in love with you. You simply cannot control how others think or feel. If you even have the notion of doing this type of thing, you are desperate for a woman.
6. You’re Getting Love Advice From A Phone Psychic
Again, when I was younger, I used to sit and look at the ads in the paper (before the Internet) that promised psychics could tell me if I was going to find love or not. I was desperate for love, and I’m not scared to admit it!
The problem is that phone-in love psychics are fake. Even if you believe that psychics are real, do you really think they would be sitting in a phone center waiting for calls? No! They would be doing readings from their home or getting their own reality show.
You may get some very good insight into a future that will never happen, and when it doesn’t, you will become even more upset about what was supposed to happen, but didn’t.
7. Your Thinking About Obvious Bad Choices
- Your friend, brother, or co-worker just broke up with a woman from hell and you are thinking about trying to go after her.
- A woman is doing crack right in front of you, and you think maybe she would be a good fit for you.
- Your thinking about going back to your ex-girlfriend who cheated on you, used you, and then stomped all over your heart.
When you knowingly go after a woman who is going to make your life miserable, that is a huge sign of desperation!
8. You Are A Chameleon Around Women And Constantly Change Your Colors
You gauge a woman and her needs, desires, and likes, and then you become exactly what you think she wants. When you are ready to be fake and not show women your true self (or live as your true self) you are desperate to find a woman.
9. You Let Women Be Rude To You
You are so willing to try to please women that you let them be rude bitches to you. I’ve seen this happen a lot when a woman knows a guy likes her and she uses that interest to make him her toy. She bosses him around, gets him to do stuff for her, and then shuts the door in his face when she’s done with him. Letting women walk all over you will not win you a woman – just a bitchy ‘boss’.
10. You Are Looking For A Desperate Woman!
You want a woman so bad that you figure a desperate woman will be your only chance. Unfortunately, two desperate people don’t make for a great relationship. There will be lots of jealousy, unhappiness, and anger in this relationship.
11. You Want To Kill Yourself
On a serious note, if the need to have a woman in your life has brought you to the point that you are going to kill yourself if you don’t get one, then you are in a really bad spot right now. That need will be all you focus on, and death may seem like a release from that focus.
There are ways to deal with desperation like this and overcome it. You just have to reach out to people to help you to find them because you won’t be able to come up with them on your own if your focus is solely on what you are lacking.